Sitting here on my balcony just enjoying the amazing view, there’s a few yachts out sailing and a couple of windsurfers flying in the breeze. Life really can be magical; I never dreamed I would have a view like I have now. When I reflect back on my life so far, with all its adventures and challenges, I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for all that I have. I realize as I sit here and take in this beautiful view; I am actually now living in the home I visualized many years before.
I grew up in NZ with three sisters, we had a pretty good childhood until I reached the age of eleven when my parents separated and life changed. Looking back on my younger years, as far back as my memory will go, I seem to have always had a restless soul, and some kind of inner knowing which I never gave much thought to and certainly didn’t appreciate until I got a lot older. Over the years I have come to understand and totally trust in this inner wisdom, or as I like to call it my “Best Friend”, it’s been with me through thick and thin, and has guided me through some very stressful times.
I was a child bride; pregnant and married by the age of sixteen, Having to grow up and start doing everything for myself from the age of eleven encouraged me to become far more independent and capable than perhaps I would have been under other circumstances. My son was born 3 months after I married and 4yrs later my daughter came along. Life with two kids was always busy and lots of fun, life with my husband was another story, I was growing and trying to find myself; by the time I got into my twenties I knew we were very different people, but I wasn’t confident enough to listen and trust my inner feelings so they stayed buried.
It was around that time I first began reading books on assertiveness and self-empowerment, I absolutely loved these books, they resonated with me, and I couldn’t get enough of them. I became a regular at my local library and a few years later I also became a regular at the local gym where I eventually started teaching ladies weight training classes. Both the gym and the books definitely helped me become stronger in my mind and body. It took me to the grand old age of 32 to have the courage to walk away from a sixteen-year marriage and the only security I had known for many years. I remember feeling such a sense of freedom; like I was flying from a mountaintop and seeing the sun shining brightly for the first time,
Adjusting to being on my own and becoming a solo mum was a different story, at times it felt like a big grey cloud was sitting over the sun. I spent the next 5 years experiencing all sorts of emotions: loneliness, insecurity, depression, sadness from my failed marriage, but there was always a sense of adventure and excitement inside of me and the thought of what possibilities might lay ahead.
By 1991 my two children had pretty much grown up, I made a big decision to go traveling, I had no plans apart from I was going to be away for at least 6months and wouldn’t give in and come home regardless of how I felt. It ended up being an incredible 17years. The thought of traveling on my own at that time was pretty scary but it also felt exciting and challenging, there was always something deep within me that knew it would all be okay, I just so wanted to experience some of this amazing world, meet new people, spread my wings and let the free spirit in me soar.
I was about to embark on a journey of discovering “me”
After backpacking around Europe, living in Greece and different places in the UK, I eventually moved and settled in Surrey in the UK and spent fifteen very happy years there. I had been working in various jobs as a barmaid, waitress and telesales, when I was offered a position as a gym instructor, which really excited me as gym and health had been a big part of my life since my early twenties. I loved the interaction with all the different people I met, I made so many great friends and really loved the opportunity to be able to inspire and encourage others to live a healthier lifestyle.
As time went on I started to feel restless again, I knew there was more I wanted to do to support people on their journey of self discovery, I decided to enroll on a counseling course and although I learnt a lot I knew I wanted to be more proactive and be able to really encourage others to be the best they could be. At this stage I had never heard of Life Coaching. I eventually decided to study massage and within the next few years I became a Holistic Massage Therapist, including Aromatherapy, Reiki Healing and Sports Massage. I set up my own therapy business while I continued working part time in the gym, and soon became busy enough with my therapies to work full time, I absolutely loved the freedom of working for myself.
I felt I had found my niche, just being able to make a difference in people’s lives was so rewarding. My passion for inspiring people overflowed into my work, and I found that people were often coming to me wanting to talk about their dreams and fears. In 2002 I decided to train as a Heal Your Life Workshop Leader based on Louise Hays work, I started doing one on one coaching together with my therapies and eventually started running my own workshops. Over the years I began to learn and understand a lot more about how the Law of Attraction works in our lives and how by focusing on “What you Imagine,Believe and Feel you really can Achieve. I realized I had actually been living this way for a long time and knew it really worked so I started incorporating more of the Law of Attraction principles into my coaching and workshops and eventually trained as a Law of Attraction coach.
Looking back I realize my life has been an incredible journey of self discovery with plenty of challenges and exciting adventures. What I have come to know and what has become very clear to me is that if I had not learnt to listen and trust in my inner wisdom, “my best friend“, I never would have been able to achieve half of what I have accomplished. Trusting and believing in myself has allowed me to live life my way and to be able to do the kind of work I am so passionate about, encouraging and supporting others on their journey of self discovery.
I now live near the beach in Melbourne, Australia, close to my family and four gorgeous grandsons, experiencing the next chapter in my life, I feel extremely grateful that my work enables me to coach clients anywhere in the world and allows me to continue the work I was put on this earth to do.
A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we can have a FULL, HAPPY and CONTENTED LIFE.
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